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Becoming the Woman You Prayed to Be!
- msdmelanya
- Dec 2, 2025
- 4 min read
“Being confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ.”
— Philippians 1:6 (KJV)
“God is within her, she shall not fall.”
— Psalm 46:5 (NIV)
Sis… let’s just be real for a second.
There comes a moment in every woman’s life where you look at yourself in the mirror and think, “Okay God… I’m not where I wanna be yet, but I’m definitely not who I used to be.” And that moment? Whew. That’s sacred. That’s growth talking.
Because becoming the woman you prayed to be…
isn’t an overnight glow-up.
It’s an everyday becoming.
It’s the little choices you make when nobody’s watching.
It’s the habits you break, the boundaries you set, and the prayers you whisper when you’re half asleep.
It’s the courage to look your old self in the face and say, “Thank you for getting me this far… but baby, I gotta go higher now.”
The Becoming Starts in the Quiet
Everybody sees your confidence now, but they don’t know about the nights you cried yourself into clarity. They don’t know how many times you had to encourage your own self because nobody else understood the vision God gave you.
Becoming starts in the quiet place.
that place where God deals with your heart before He ever elevates your life.
Sometimes Becoming Means Leaving
Oop, yes, I said it.
Sometimes becoming the woman you prayed to be requires you to:
leave old habits
leave old friendships
leave old versions of you that survived… but didn’t grow
And you know what’s crazy?
Most of the time, God removes things you kept praying for Him to fix.
Not because you weren’t worthy…
but because you were evolving.
What you prayed to be wasn’t lining up with what you were holding onto.
Softness Is a Form of Strength
That woman you prayed to be?
Yeah… she’s soft.
But make no mistake, she’s not weak.
She knows when to rest.
She knows when to stop over-giving.
She knows how to let peace guide her decisions instead of pressure.
She knows how to let God be God without trying to micro-manage the blessing.
Softness is strength with boundaries.
It’s confidence without the need to defend it.
Healing Is Part of the Blueprint
Becoming her means you gotta face some things:
your patterns
your triggers
your temper
your childhood wounds
your people-pleasing
your fear of being seen AND fear of being loved
Healing is not cute.
It’s not aesthetic.
It’s not a candle and a bubble bath.
Healing is the work that builds the woman you prayed for God to turn you into.
You Are Becoming Her… Even When You Don’t Feel Like It
Some days you’re on it.
Fresh hair. Good mood. Bills paid. Spirit settled.
You’re giving main character energy, okay?
And other days?
You’re surviving off prayer, iced coffee, and God’s grace alone.
But hear me:
Both days count.
Both are part of your becoming.
God doesn’t waste a single season.
What Does “Becoming Her” Look Like?
She’s peaceful.
She’s intentional.
She’s discerning.
She’s softer with herself and stronger with her standards.
She no longer explains her worth — she embodies it.
She trusts God more than her fear.
She gives without draining herself.
She loves without losing herself.
And she doesn’t chase… she attracts through alignment.
She’s the woman you used to pray for…
walking in rooms you once felt unqualified for…
handling things you once cried about…
and showing up with grace you never knew you had.
A Prayer for the Woman You Are Becoming
Father, thank You for the version of me I haven’t fully stepped into yet.
Give me wisdom for the journey, courage for the changes, and peace for the process.
Help me release what no longer serves me and embrace what You’ve prepared for me.
Let me become the woman You intended whole, steady, loved, and aligned.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Sis… you’re not just becoming the woman you prayed to be
you’re becoming the woman God designed you to be.
And baby… she looks good on you already!
A Prayer for Your Becoming
Father, thank You for every woman reading this.
Thank You for the story You’re writing in her life even the chapters she doesn’t understand yet. Lord, strengthen her where she feels weak, settle her where she feels anxious, and remind her that she is growing even on the days she feels stuck.
Help her release the versions of herself that can’t go where You’re taking her.
Help her walk in confidence, not comparison.
Cover her mind with peace, her heart with protection, and her steps with purpose.
Let her see herself the way You see her loved, chosen, capable, and becoming.
And when she doubts her progress, whisper to her spirit:
“Daughter, you are closer than you think.”
Guide her into the woman she prayed to be…
the woman You designed long before she ever knew her own name.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
This really stuck out to me “She no longer explains her worth — she embodies it”.
I agree with the entire blog. It was very encouraging. Lord help me to be the woman that You are designing me to be! Sometimes we have to face some things while trusting the process. It will be worth it in the end!
All I can say is My God, My God!!!! With tears rolling down my face, this has been my journey all year. Back and forth not sure of what I’m supposed to be doing, God has been dealing with me about who he has called me to be!!! It’s hard sometimes to be the Woman who I prayed to God to become, with all the ups, downs, pain, disappointments and confusion!!! Thank you Mel for allowing God to use you in this blog!!! This hit hard for me!!!😭😭😭😭
This hit home. I felt this in my spirit, especially the part about becoming in the quiet and having to release what can’t go where God is taking you. You put into words what so many of us are living but don’t always know how to explain. This was encouraging and real. I didn't feel pressured by it but I felt truth and love. I’m grateful for this reminder that I’m not behind, I’m becoming.
Beautiful job QUEEN!
This reminded me that growth doesn’t always look glamorous most of the time, it looks like obedience, boundaries, healing, and choosing peace over pressure. It looks like letting God deal with my heart before He elevates my life. It’s very uncomfortable at times but I know it’s necessary!
I felt seen in the reminder that softness is strength, that healing is work, and that even on the days I’m surviving on prayer and grace alone… I’m still becoming.
Thank you for honoring the process and reminding us that God doesn’t waste a single season. We are closer than we think and the she we’re becoming is already showing up.