They Called It Clarity. I Called It Cancel Culture — God Called It a New Season

🎶 Let’s Play a Game: Name That Tune!

One of my favorite lines from a song goes like this:

“You don't have s** to say to me, I ain't got s*** to say to you — and that's the truth…You don't like me, you don't have to fool with meBut you don't have to talk about me or treat me mean.I don't have to treat you mean, I just stay out of your way —That’s the way we work that one.”*

BABY THIS WAS MY JUNT!!! 🎶🎶

Now let’s be real —Why did that lyric hit so hard? Why did it make you nod, chuckle, or say “Whewww, that’s me!”?

Maybe because it sounded like freedom. Maybe because we’re used to protecting our peace at all costs — even if that means cutting ties, blocking, unfollowing, or pretending like people don’t exist.

But here’s the real question: Is that God’s way — or just our defense mechanism?

📖 When Vision Meets Real Life

When God gave me the three points of our Vision 2029, I smiled.

“To see a world where women passionately pursue Christ, relentlessly love otHERs, and emphatically embrace the fullness of their God-given femininity.”

Yes, Lord! That’s beautiful. That’s doable. That’s so me.

I’m the “let’s love, let’s hug, let’s all get along” type. I’ve never been one to hold grudges or carry offenses to a fault. I’ve always believed it’s easier to let things go than to carry dead weight. There’s enough space in the world for peace, I don’t need to see or be around anyone constantly to love them. I’m the Kumbaya Queen! ✨

But then came our Fall 2025 Chapter Meeting.

And it rocked me. Because I realized something painful:

We STRUGGLE — badly — with loving otHERs.

Just bringing up the conversation shifted faces and postures. Some sistHERs got visibly uncomfortable, others explained it away:

“By the time I’ve loved my husband, my kids, my job, my family… I’m all loved out.”

It broke my heart. Because this — the “love otHERs” part — was supposed to be easy. But it’s been anything but easy.

👇🏽 My Testimony: Canceled But Called

Let me share something real with you.

I had a close relative who I loved deeply, like, ride or die, blood and bond, do-life-together deeply. I truly believed she loved me back the same way.

But after the death of my father — in one of the hardest, most fragile seasons of my life —she DROPPED me.

No phone call, No check-in, No grace Card extended.

She distanced herself, cut me off, and incited a full-on family cut-off. Suddenly, I wasn’t invited to family functions. I wasn’t acknowledged.I wasn’t seen.

And y’all — I tried.

I reached out. I asked to talk. I extended the olive branch — again and again. Eventually, we texted through it and she admitted:

“It wasn’t anything you did… I’m just working through some stuff.”

I reached out to other sistHERs I thought I had tight bonds with —same response.

“It wasn’t you. I just need space.” “I’m going through my own stuff.” “It’s not personal.”

But how do you not take it personally…when the silence feels like punishment? when you're already grieving a loss, and now you’re grieving living people too?

That’s been the story of my life. And yet… I still choose to love.Because honestly — I don’t know how to do anything but love.

Even at our family reunion last month, I showed up with love.Smiled. Hugged. Gave. Extended.

But the reality that something is off… is still there. And I had to ask God, “What is this?”

And He said:

“They canceled you — but I called you.” 😭😭😑😑😑😑

They closed a door… but He opened a new season.

What I thought was rejection was actually redirection.What felt like abandonment was God making room for abundance.

💬 Real Talk: Cancel Culture vs. Christ Culture

We live in a cancel culture. One mistake. One disagreement. One misunderstanding — and it’s:

❌ Blocked❌ Uninvited❌ Unbothered❌ Unfollowed❌ Unforgiven

But let’s go a little deeper…

Sometimes the cancellation isn’t silent. Sometimes it’s not passive or distant. Sometimes it’s bold, loud, and intentional:

💣 Lies told to others to poison your character. (Been there, living through it this very moment)

🕳️ Undermining your leadership or authority in spaces where you once stood tall.Been there, living through it this very moment)

🧠 Manipulation that twists your words and motives. Been there, living through it this very moment)

🗣️ Backdoor conversations that assassinate your reputation before you even know what’s been said. Been there, living through it this very moment)

🧊 Cold shoulders in rooms you once felt safe in. Been there, living through it this very moment)

And what makes it worse? Sometimes it comes from the people you loved the most.People you prayed with.People who cried with you.People you trusted to hold your name gently.

It hurts different when it’s not just silence — it’s sabotage.

But here’s what God whispered to me in my lowest moment:

“What they weaponized, I will redeem. What they canceled, I will call into a new season. What they said in secret, I will answer in public.”

And here’s what I know to be true:

God’s grace is big enough to cover and help us overcome all of it.

Even the slander. Even the betrayal. Even the grief of relationships that may never go back to what they were. His grace is the balm. His grace is the strength. His grace is the guardrail between reacting in flesh and responding in faith.

💛 Let’s Reflect: Real Heartwork

Take a moment. Breathe. Be honest with yourself and God.

Ask yourself:

1. Have I been hurt by a sistHER who didn't just walk away — but tried to tear me down?

2. Have I been holding onto the need to “set the record straight” instead of letting God vindicate me?

3. Have I started to mirror the same behavior I was hurt by — subtle shade, silent dismissal, or coldness?

4. Am I willing to trust God enough to heal me... even if the apology never comes?

   
   

   If you answered yes to any of the above, now add 70 X's 70 more acts of aggression to the list, and at the end of the list, GOD SAYS LOVE HER!

I know it's not easy, I know it hurts, I know it's not inuative to forgive and definitely not to forget, but sis on the other side of your obedience, is your abundance!

CHOOSE LOVE!

Sis, you weren’t canceled —You were called into a new season.

Let love be your badge.

Let grace be your brand.

Let healing be your heart.

You were made to Just Love.

Even when they don’t love back.

TogetHER we Got This! Just LOVEHERGIRL!

—

With love that refuses to quit,Dr. C

🙏🏽 A Closing Prayer

Father, thank You for loving us through rejection, disappointment, and heartbreak. You never canceled us, You called us. Help us to love otHERs the way You love us unconditionally, relentlessly, and with grace. Teach us to let go of offense, to seek peace, and to stay in step with Your Spirit . Heal the places in us where abandonment, betrayal, and silence live. Help us see our sistHERs through Your eyes, even when they don’t see us. Birth something new in us through obedience so we can live in the wealth of your love and abundance. And may our lives be a reflection of just love. In Jesus’ name, Amen.